I’ve had it with the lack of hiring in the office, by Annie Lane

Dear Annie: I have been dating a man for five years. He was working before the pandemic, but he wasn’t really actively applying for jobs. My biggest problem is the fact that I pay for all the household expenses we share together and he doesn’t have to do anything to help me.

At the same time, he starts treating me like a servant in my own house. He controls the television. The foods I like, he throws away, since he doesn’t eat them. He has tantrums and tantrums when I tell him to get a job.

I’m tired of supporting a grown man. What should I do? – Frustrated

Dear Frustrated: He can complain all he wants, but the numbers don’t lie. Sit down with your boyfriend and a financial planner so you can go over all your finances together. He will be forced to realize that he is not contributing to household expenses. Next, make a plan. A good couples counselor can help you communicate. If it doesn’t work, prepare to kick him out.

Dear Annie: I have a job where I work for a doctor. He has two offices. He has four people working in one office and I work alone in the other. On clinic days, which is when the doctor sees the patients, I am supposed to have help. The other employees who come from the other office either take the day off or when they are there they don’t help me. They just sit in the break room and talk, and I run the show by myself.

I went to the manager, and even the manager above her, and they are hiring someone but don’t know when she will start. I went to the doctor recently and told him I was tired of working alone and that his staff should come help me with the clinic. He called me inappropriate for saying that and told me I should just keep doing my job. I asked him, “So it’s okay for me to be alone then?” He does not say anything. I do not know what to do. – Lose patience

Dear Losing: You are in a frustrating situation. Although the doctor’s response was unhelpful, I can’t blame him: You’ll be more likely to speak again with the manager or another supervisor who helps you with staffing and personnel decisions.

Arrange a meeting with one of your superiors to calmly and rationally explain your point of view. Ultimately, without adequate staffing, patients suffer the most. If your managers are not serious about hiring additional staff, it would be prudent to start looking for other employment opportunities, where you not only feel prepared to succeed, but where your needs are heard and valued.

“How can I forgive my cheating partner? » is out now! Annie Lane’s second anthology – featuring her favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation – is available in paperback and e-book form. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information. Send your questions to Annie Lane at [email protected].

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